I’ve only ever been able to hate people
with the same passion with which
I once loved them
My mom and I were watching the TLC show “Something New, Something Borrowed” the other day and we started talking about me wearing her wedding dress. She told me that she didn’t want me wearing her dress because it wasn’t “the dress” for her. I just nodded in understanding.
But, today I figured out the real reason she doesn’t want me to wear the dress.
My mom didn’t like the fact that my dress form wasn’t wearing anything (don’t ask, I don’t even understand her some times), so she put her wedding dress on it. The first thing I noticed was how small the waist was. Now, I am a 39-40 inch waist and am pretty hefty for a girl my age, and my mother is about the same size as me currently. But this dress, this dress, has a 28 inch waist on it. I instantly thought about our conversation the other night and realized that I wouldn’t fit into that dress anyway. I got a bit sad over it, in all honesty.
My mom caught me starring at the dress and started talking to me about it. I didn’t tell her how sad it made me, but I’m pretty sure she could tell. She told me that she never liked the dress, as her father picked out for her because he paid for it. But then she got really quiet. She told me that this dress reminds her of the broken person she used to be.
My mom was raised by a Japanese mother while her German-American father was usually off to sea and was rarely home. She was told all her life, by her own mother, that she would be “fat like her father”. It also didn’t help that she was an outcast in Japan since she was a “konketsuji” (literally means “child of mixed blood”). Her mom even made her take diet pills when she was only 8 years old to make her lose weight. 8 years old.
Eventually, when she was a junior in high school she finally snapped. She became bulimic just to get her mother’s approval, who then died 2 years later after hiding her liver disease from the family for over 10 years. My mom continued being bulimic for years following her mother’s death, and was even doing it when she met my dad. It wasn’t until they were married that my dad found out about it, and they decided to make a deal. My parents agreed that if my mom stopped doing this to her body, then my dad would stop doing the various drugs he did (pot, shrooms, speed, ect).
After hearing this, I don’t want to even look at the dress. In fact, I kind of want to burn it. But it showed me how much other people’s views of us, especially family, can mess with our minds. Now I know why my mom always stood up for me when my dad would point out my weight when I was younger… and I love her even more for it. It’s thanks to her that I love my body for what it is: me.
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WRITTEN BY A COP: Everyone should take 5 minutes to read this. It may save your life or a loved one’s life. In daylight hours, refresh yourself of these things to do in an emergency situation… This is for you, and for you to share with your wife, your children, & everyone you know. After reading these 9 crucial tips, forward them to someone you care about. It never hurts to be careful in this crazy world we live in.
1. Tip from Tae Kwon Do :The elbow is the strongest point on your body. If you are close enough to use it, do!
2. Learned this from a tourist guide. If a robber asks for your wallet and/or purse,
DO NOT HAND IT TO HIM. Toss it away from you… Chances are that he is more interested in your wallet and/or purse than you, and he will go for the wallet/purse.
RUN LIKE MAD IN THE OTHER DIRECTION!
3. If you are ever thrown into the trunk of a car, kick out the back tail lights and stick your arm out the hole and start waving like crazy.. The driver won’t see you, but everybody else will. This has saved lives.
4. Women have a tendency to get into their cars after shopping, eating, working, etc., and just sit (doing their checkbook, or making a list, etc.
DON’T DO THIS!) The predator will be watching you, and this is the perfect opportunity for him to get in on the passenger side, put a gun to your head,
and tell you where to go. AS SOON AS YOU GET INTO YOUR CAR ,
LOCK THE DOORS AND LEAVE..
If someone is in the car with a gun to your head DO NOT DRIVE OFF, Repeat:
DO NOT DRIVE OFF! Instead gun the engine and speed into anything, wrecking the car. Your Air Bag will save you. If the person is in the back seat they will get the worst of it. As soon as the car crashes bail out and run. It is better than having them find your body in a remote location.
5. A few notes about getting into your car in a parking lot, or parking garage:
A.) Be aware:look around you, look into your car, at the passenger side floor ,
and in the back seat.
B.) If you are parked next to a big van, enter your car from the passenger door.
Most serial killers attack their victims by pulling them into their vans while the women
are attempting to get into their cars. C.) Look at the car parked on the driver’s side of your vehicle, and the passenger side.. If a male is sitting alone in the seat nearest your car, you may want to walk back into the mall, or work, and get a guard/policeman to walk you back out. IT IS ALWAYS BETTER TO BE SAFE THAN SORRY. (And better paranoid than dead.)
6. ALWAYS take the elevator instead of the stairs. Stairwells are horrible places to be alone and the perfect crime spot. This is especially true at NIGHT!)
7. If the predator has a gun and you are not under his control, ALWAYS RUN!
The predator will only hit you (a running target) 4 in 100 times; and even then,
it most likely WILL NOT be a vital organ. RUN, Preferably in a zig -zag pattern!
8. As women, we are always trying to be sympathetic: STOP It may get you raped, or killed. Ted Bundy, the serial killer, was a good-looking, well educated man, who ALWAYS played on the sympathies of unsuspecting women. He walked with a cane, or a limp, and often asked ‘for help’ into his vehicle or with his vehicle, which is when he abducted his next victim.
9. Another Safety Point: Someone just told me that her friend heard a crying baby on her porch the night before last, and she called the police because it was late
and she thought it was weird.. The police told her ‘Whatever you do, DO NOT
open the door..’ The lady then said that it sounded like the baby
had crawled near a window, and she was worried that it would crawl to the street and get run over. The policeman said, ‘We already have a unit on the way,
whatever you do, DO NOT open the door.’ He told her that they think a serial killer
has a baby’s cry recorded and uses it to coax women out of their homes thinking that someone dropped off a baby.. He said they have not verified it, but have had several calls by women saying that they hear baby’s cries outside their doors when they’re home alone at night.
10. Water scam! If you wake up in the middle of the night to hear all your taps outside running or what you think is a burst pipe, DO NOT GO OUT TO INVESTIGATE! These people turn on all your outside taps full blast so that you will go out to investigate and then attack.
Stay alert, keep safe, and look out for your neighbors! Please pass this on
This post should probably be taken seriously because the Crying Baby Theory was mentioned on America ‘s Most Wanted when they profiled
the serial killer in Louisiana
I’d like you to forward this to all the women you know.
It may save a life. A candle is not dimmed by lighting another candle..
I was going to send this to the ladies only,
but guys, if you love your mothers, wives, sisters, daughters, etc.,
you may want to pass it onto them, as well.
Send this to any woman you know that may need
to be reminded that the world we live in has a lot of crazies in it
and it’s better to be safe than sorry..
Everyone should take 5 minutes to read this. It may save your life or
a loved one’s life.
As someone who has been a victim of an armed robbery, its always best to stay as calm as you can. I know it sounds hard, and before it happened to me, I thought it was the craziest thing ever. But the more you ‘cooperate’ with a robbery, the more likely they will stay calm as well…as weird as it sounds, but it worked in my situation. I was the manager at the time when my store got robbed, and I had to keep myself calm and three of my employees safe…so just stay calm! Just give them the money, your life is not worth whatever money they get. You can always cancel credit cards, but you can not get your life back.
The baby dolls of Mardi Gras.
Prostitutes have often been at the forefront of challenges to gender conventions. Already at the fringes of “respectable society,” by choice or circumstance, these women often have less to lose than others.
The Mardi Gras Baby Dolls are an excellent example:
"The baby doll tradition began in 1912. That year a group of African American sex workers dressed up like baby dolls and took to the streets to celebrate Mardi Gras. Calling your lover ‘baby’ had just become part of the English language. Meanwhile, actual baby dolls, the toy, were rare.
By dressing up this way, they flouted both gender and race rules. Women were largely excluded from masking for Mardi Gras and African Americans were still living under Jim Crow. Black women, by virtue of being both Black and female, were particularly devalued, sex workers ever more so. Asserting themselves as baby dolls, then, was a way of arguing that they were worth something.”
Read more at Sociological Images.